I've had a fair share of ups in downs in marriage. I've seen a great deal of other couples struggling in their relationships as well. Some knew that they were in deep...and sadly, others were totally clueless about the train wreck in front of them. When Drama comes, when spouses lose interest, when faith falls to the wayside, when family values meet a wall of disaster, We tend to immediately put a time clock on God. Indirectly, we give him a time frame to fix our issues. Within that time, we check off list of special to dos in order to be sure that we've met certain quotas. if we've prayed, even fasted, and if we are giving tithes or offerings, and if we are being nicer than usual to our spouse and if we've even carved out extra or new time for bible study/devotion, then suddenly we expect God to move on our loved ones heart. We expect that after a month or two things should be different. We begin to give our loved one ultimatums after a certain time. I know that there are certain times where this is a sure necessity, but most of us tend to jump toward this option rather quickly. What if God is actually undoing a lifetime of issues in your spouse? What if he is unraveling and exposing something so deeply rooted that it was there before you were even a part of their life? What if God is healing a brokenness in them that even they don't understand? if this is the case...then why the heck are we rushing them? Our issues would seem less irritable and less overwhelming if we truly were before God in fervent prayer for our spouses. We are the only ones who can actually see what they are dealing with from morning to night? Counseling is great, but prayer still stands the test of time. I suggest getting close to God's word concerning the specific issue we're dealing with. Jealousy, resentment, loneliness, insecurity, the bible has an answer for it all, so dwelling on What God says about it, and offering your time to pray for her or him without any attitudes or anger is so much more life changing than throwing everything in a bag and heading off to mom's! Some of us say "I've dealt with it long enough"...but have we? Have we dealt with it or have we endured it and existed through it? I remember when my husband stopped dealing with my drama and started confronting it in Prayer. Sometimes I could feel the fact that someone was sincerely praying for me. He can say the same thing. There were times where he was too far gone mentally to cry out on his own...I had to pitch in and do it for him. Couples are a team? Can you imagine a team never rooting for one another? Can you imagine a basketball player making a shot and his own teammate stomps his feet in disgust? Can you imagine a track runner hurting his leg, and his team refusing to rush out to assist him? This is what we do to our loved ones. We spend so much time being MAD that we never see how much they need us to intercede...how much they need us to let God's love shine through...
Geesh i was supposed to just be sayin somethin quick.....but uh....got carried away.
UNCOVERED...in HOME AGAIN reveals these issues. I hope you guys will enjoy it!
Geesh i was supposed to just be sayin somethin quick.....but uh....got carried away.
UNCOVERED...in HOME AGAIN reveals these issues. I hope you guys will enjoy it!